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Congratulations Kate and Kevin

Monday, June 27th, 2011 at 11:06 ET

Kate and Kevin Chasse, husband and wife!

This is the ceremony we used to wed Kate and Kevin :)

After the processional the wedding party is in front, facing forward.

WELCOME
Welcome family and friends. We are gathered here, in these beautiful Georgia mountains, to join Kate Elizabeth Daiger and Kevin Robert Chasse in a life of mutual commitment and sacred matrimony. We celebrate with them the serendipity that has brought them together and rejoice with them in the good fortune to be brought to the place where they now stand. Surrounded by the love of this happy bride and groom, we give thanks for this opportunity to be with them on their special day.

Please be seated.

DEFINITION OF MARRIAGE & CHARGE TO THE COUPLE
There’s no way to adequately describe how excited, happy, and privileged I feel today. I remember vividly the day Kate called to tell me that Kevin had proposed. I literally leapt with joy! More than once. Like many of you, I’ve been able to watch Kate and Kevin grow their relationship, working together to build a foundation upon which they might establish a life together.

Seven years ago, they meet in an unfamiliar city. Although they were far from most of their family and friends, they found each other, and I think each knew there was a very special bond forming. As time moved on, their lives saw many changes: jobs have come and gone, they’ve moved from place to place, and relationships have waxed and waned. Through these struggles, their love triumphed and grew stronger, eventually leading them here, to Gerogia. In Atlanta they have flourished together, and have even made the first addition to their happy family: an adorable, rambunctious puppy named Molly!

Now they’re ready to “take the leap” together and start building on the strong foundation they’ve laid. I was reflecting on why they call it “taking a leap,” and found this passage from Madeline L’Engle:

To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation.
(from “The Irrational Season”, by Madeleine L’Engle)

Loving another more than you love yourself enables a person to take this leap with abandon and with joy.

Kate and Kevin, marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships. No ceremony can create your marriage, only you can do that by building on the foundation you’ve laid: through dedication and perseverance, through tenderness and laughter, and through tears of happiness as well as sadness. During your long journey together you will learn and re-learn many things: to forgive, to appreciate your differences, and to make important things matter while letting go of the rest.

Before this moment you have been many things to one another: acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after your vows, you shall say to the world, this is my husband, this is my wife.
(from Union by Robert Fulghum)

DECLARATION OF INTENT
Let’s begin. (or ad lib)

Kate, do you take Kevin to be your wedded husband and promise yourself to him? Do you pledge to love him, comfort him, and honour him; and forsaking all others remain loyal to him as long as you both shall live?
I do.

Kevin, do you take Kate to be your wedded wife and promise yourself to her? Do you pledge to love her, comfort her, and honour her; and forsaking all others remain loyal to her as long as you both shall live?
I do.

SUPPORT OF THE COMMUNITY
The wedding party turns to face their family and friends.

It is fitting that Kate and Kevin’s family and friends gather here to witness their marriage. Yet today you have come here not simply to witness, but to take part. Each of you represents not only yourself, but all of the people who have and will touch the lives of our bride and groom. Your support has helped their relationship to flourish, and the joy that you bring into their lives will help sustain them. Therefore I ask the community gathered today to speak out in support of this union.

Will all of you witnessing these promises surround this couple in love, offering to them the joys of your friendship? Will you do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage? If so, say “we will.”
We will.

READING
Kate and Kevin have asked their friend Melissa to offer an inspirational reading.

This is Aristophanes’ tale of creation, chronicled by Plato.

Once upon a time, people were not born separate from each other. They were born entwined, kind of coupled with each other. So there were boys attached to boys, and there were girls attached to girls, and, of course, boys and girls together, in a wonderfully intimate ball. Back then we had eight limbs: there were four on top and four on the bottom. And you didn’t have to walk if you didn’t want to, you could roll, and roll we did. We rolled backwards and we rolled forwards, achieving fantastic speeds that gave us a kind of courage. And then the courage swelled to pride, and the pride became arrogance. And then we decided that we were greater than the Gods and we tried to roll up to heaven and take over. The gods, alarmed, struck back. And Zeus in his fury, hurled down lightning bolts and struck everyone in two, into perfect halves. So all of a sudden couples who’d been warm and tight and wedged together were now detached and alone and lost and desperate and losing the will to live. And the gods, seeing what they’d done, worried that humans might not survive or even multiply again, and of course they needed humans to give sacrifices and to pay attention to them. So the Gods decided on a few repairs.

Instead of heads facing backwards or out, they would rotate our heads back forward. They pulled our skin taught and knotted it right here at the belly-button. Genitalia, too, were moved to the front so if we wanted to, you know, we could. And most important, they left us with a memory. It was a longing for that original other half of ourselves. The boy or the girl who used to make us whole. And that longing is still so deep in all of us that it has been the lot of humans ever since to travel the world looking for our other half. And when one of us meets another we recognize each other right away, we just know this. We’re lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy, and we won’t get out of each other’s sight, even for a moment. These are people who pass their whole lives together, and yet if you ask them they could not explain what they desire of each other. They just – do.
(as retold in Desperately Seeking Symmetry by Radiolab, Season 9 Episode 5)

WEDDING VOWS
In celebration of their deep love, Kate and Kevin have prepared their own vows.

The bride and groom turn to face one another. Hold hands?

Kate reads her vows.

Kevin reads his vows.

EXCHANGING OF RINGS
May we please have the rings?

Craig gives Jed the rings.

In these rings is the symbol of unity, in which your lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever you go, may you always return to one another. May these circles evoke in one another the love for which all men and women yearn.

May these rings be blessed as a symbol of your unity and ever a reminder of the vows you have taken today and the promises you have made.

Kevin places the ring just past the first knuckle of Kate’s finger, repeating:
With all that I am, and all that I have, I give you this ring as an enduring symbol of my vows.
Kevin finishes placing the ring on her finger.

Kate places the ring just past the first knuckle of Kevin’s finger, repeating:
With all that I am, and all that I have, I give you this ring as an enduring symbol of my vows.
Kate finishes placing the ring on his finger.

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE
Kate and Kevin, you have consented together to marriage before this community, pledged solemn vows, and declared your unity by each giving and receiving a ring. As you have been joined together in mutual esteem and devotion, I now pronounce you husband and wife. Those whom love has joined together, let no one put asunder. Congratulations, you may now kiss the bride!

BENEDICTION AND INTRODUCTION
Please rise as we offer a Native American blessing for the happy couple:

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter to the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there is no loneliness for you, for each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two persons, but there is one life before you. Go now to enter into the days of your togetherness and may your days be good and long upon the earth.

Ladies and Gentlemen, it is my great privilege to introduce Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Chasse.

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1 Comment Add your own

  • 1. Karla & Art Nicholson  |  June 27th, 2011 at 22:44 ET

    What an absolutely beautiful bride and groom! The vows were so perfect and we are so very sad that we couldn’t be there to celebrate the wonderful commitment they have made. It is so special that you have shared this lovely day with your friends via the internet.
    Thank you so much and may the bride and groom be happy in their lives. May they be blessed with all good things.
    Uncle Art and Aunt Karla

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